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Laissez les Bons Temps Rouler

February 16, 2010

In the spirit of this wild and overly-populated holiday weekend, we would like to give you one last hoorah from our latest photo shoot!  Thanks again to the sensational Erin of Wicked Kitten Productions for everything.

Happy Valentine’s day, Chinese New Year, President’s day and Mardi Gras all rolled into one.  So, laissez les bon temps rouler– let the good times roll, y’all!

"The Face of Joy" Photo by Wicked Kitten Productions: All Rights Reserved

"Show me Fierce, baby" Photo by Wicked Kitten Productions: All Rights Reserved

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Bitches, Get Your Groove On!

February 14, 2010

For all of you who may not know, Logo Network is a fabulous LGBT channel for those of us looking for lifestyle friendly and alternative programming.  And, y’all, I found my inspiration in Rupaul’s Drag Show .  Honestly these are some of the best Drag Queens I have ever seen.  WORK IT, GIRLS!

Ms Sophie Croisé Photo by Wicked Kitten Productions: All Rights Reserved

(Stay tuned for more on my transformation)

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Freaky Friday: A Role Reversal for Valentine’s

February 12, 2010

As most of you know, two weeks ago we did a photo shoot with the most amazing and brilliant Erin of Wicked Kitten Productions.  And as we’ve been promising to do all week long, Sophie and I finally got a chance to sit down to select the shots we wanted to share with you here on the Diaries.  It was an extremely hard decision to make, especially since there were over 80 different stunning images from which to choose.  But in the end I have to say the shots we decided on are the creme de la creme and we are thrilled to share them with you now.

Ladies and Gentleman(girls), I give you “A Role Reversal for Valentine’s”

"After a Long Hard Day" Photo by Wicked Kitten Productions: All Rights Reserved

"What's this? No Ice?" Photo by Wicked Kitten Productions: All Rights Reserved

"What am I to Do With You?" Photo by Wicked Kitten Productions: All Rights Reserved

"Just Can't Resist You" Photo by Wicked Kitten Productions: All Rights Reserved

"Now Gimme a Kiss" Photo by Wicked Kitten Productions: All Rights Reserved

"Just Sampling the Wares" Photo by Wicked Kitten Productions: All Rights Reserved

"Make 'Yerself Useful: RUB" Photo by Wicked Kitten Productions: All Rights Reserved

"Do I Have to 'Ask' Twice?" Photo by Wicked Kitten Productions: All Rights Reserved

"The Angel; My Hellcat" Photo by Wicked Kitten Productions: All Rights Reserved

"Happy Valentine's Day: From Gigi & Sophie Photo by Wicked Kitten Productions: All Rights Reserved

Thanks, again, to the amazing and lovely Erin of  Wicked Kitten Productions.  We look forward to shooting with you again, soon.

Stay tuned to the Diaries over this grand holiday weekend of love, indulgence, celebration and new year as we reveal another set of sultry and enticing photos.

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A Bit Like a Brick in Yer Trousers

February 7, 2010

Photo By Cecilia Ferreira Courtesy of MyArtSpace.com

Its been two months since our first entry about Sophie’s new little friend, the CB6000.  During that time, I’ve seen a noticeable difference in Sophie’s behavouir and attitude when she’s in or out of the belt.  I just wanted to take a few moments to talk about some of these behaviours and speak to my over all thoughts of her chastity and about this device in particular.

As I’ve stated before, Sophie is a very good girl.  She never gives me any trouble and her constant thoughts are of how to please me with every action.  Truly I’m an extremely lucky woman to have such an amazing service submissive in my care.  And as I’ve also said, with the application of the CB600 device Sophie’s already demure personality becomes even more subservient and yielding as it reminds her, with every movement, who holds the key to her happiness.  As the weeks have passed, and her freedom is dictated by my whims, Sophie’s actions and behaviours began to flex and reflect my dictation.  Sometimes in expected ways and sometimes in surprising ways.  Over all I have to say chastity is a good thing for Sophie, but I am not sure it is an arrangement that will be a permanent fixture in our life.

We have an interesting relationship, Sophie and I.  We aren’t just Dominant and submissive; we are equal partners in our day to day lives as well.  I have no desire to have a TPE (Total Power Exchange) arrangement with her, and she has no desire to live in constant servitude to me.  We made it a point to mould and shape our ‘nilla life first before we ventured into a deep D/s relationship.  Doing as such was best for us; we are in this relationship for the long haul.  So with that being the case,  it stands to reason that being in constant chastity would not prove beneficial to us.   The meaning behind the confinement would soon be lost and resented by Sophie if she were constantly made to wear her belt, so I have found giving her some time off for good behaviour occasionally is best for her and ultimately for our relationship.

Another reason I allow for the occasional reprieve is because I don’t want Sophie’s belt to become a crutch in our relationship.  Often such devices can be hidden behind and used as masks for untold issues.  It is easy for Sophie and I to fall into a non-sexual pattern because of personal hang-ups, so if we relied upon the belt as a way to hide those issues, it would only prove to quicken the resentment of confinement and eventually destroy our relationship.  So, it is important to us to remember that Sophie’s chastity is simply a fun tool to play with and not relied on as a relationship stabilizer.

To the device itself: it works… in a pinch, but only just.  While I am fully aware the makers of the CB6000 are improving the design and security of their belts with each new model, I am not satisfied with this device’s construction.  It does the job of keeping Sophie in check, but that’s where its usefulness ends.  There is no way on earth I could, in good consciousness, allow Sophie to wear this particular belt for longer than 3 weeks at a time.  With just one week’s use, the smell wafting from the belt can knock you down and will instantly put anyone in the mood for hot love out of it with just one whiff.  We’ve tried everything to keep her and the device clean without removing it, but nothing works.  I’m not sure if her girth is an issue, but I’m sure it doesn’t help matters, either.  She is a ‘big girl’, and its sometimes a chore to fit everything inside the casing, which, I am sure, is part of the reason it is so hard to keep her clean while wearing it.  Have you ever tried to clean a sausage inside its casing without removing it first?  Impossible.

Also, the CB600 is not a solid moulded piece of plastic.  Bad form, y’all.  Really, really bad form.  I was deeply disappointed by this fact when we first got the belt and eventually completely enraged when, one day, the belt broke right down the joint during a particularly hot and heavy petting session.  Nothing can piss me off more than a spoiled scene, so kudos to you -CB6000- for achieving that heinous feat.  It was a scary situation to be in; Sophie trapped with a quickly deflating hard-on inside a broken chastity belt that could have easily torn into her flesh as we tried to remove it.  Thank God we were able to get it off with no injuries, and we were able to super bond the belt back together at the seam to make it “usable” again, but such a defect should never be possible in the first place.  Even if the device has to be moulded in two halves, there needs to be a better, more safe and secure way of bonding the two halves.  The makers of the CB series had better get on the ball with this.  What are they gonna do when one of their belts causes serious injury to a user?  Smells like a law suit to me.

With all this said, at some point I am going to have Sophie fitted for a custom steel cage.  There are just too many issues that have turned me off of the CB line and it has all convinced me that a custom belt is the only way to go for her.  Such a device will allow for longer wear, if I desire it, will be easier to clean and will not hold residual odors like the CB6000.  Also, with welded and soldered parts, I don’t think we’ll ever have to worry about a steel cage popping apart at the seams when I feel like being frisky.  This is most definitely a case of “you get what you pay for”, and I don’t pay for ANYONE to hurt Sophie.  That’s my job, you ninnys.

All in all, though, we will keep playing with chastity– not only physically, but mental chastity as well.  Stay tuned, kink fans!

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In the Interm…

February 1, 2010

So while we are waiting patiently on the rest of Ms Erin’s photos to be processed, I’d like to share with you a most wonderful and liberating article I happened upon today while perusing Kinky Blue’s twitter feed. (If you stop by Kinky Blue by way of our site, please let them know how you found them.)

In light of last week’s ego hiccup, this piece reloaded my sex pot batteries and reminded me that, at a size 8, I am luscious, appealing and drop dead gorgeous.  Thank you very much, Kinky Blue, for restoring the common sense I temporarily misplaced.

The Rise of the Curvy Girl
Courtesy of Kinky Blue

Curvy isn't the new sexy... it always HAS been sexy

“So here’s the skinny (sorry) -& I’m so excited about this- curvy girls are finally in vogue!  Not in the magazine of that name, you understand, (that would be a little too much to hope for) but there are definitely signs that the tide is turning & women in the UK are finally starting to see images in the media that truly represent what we look like.

Even Victoria Beckham looks like she’s started allowing a few carbs past her lips, after months of enduring the gossip magazines highlighting her angular frame & lollipop head as a bad example to the nation’s teens. It’s ironic that Victoria Beckham’s dresses make curvy women look fabulous -witness Carol Vorderman’s amazing figure in a Beckham LBD, recently.”

For more of this article, please visit Now Public, here.

As most of us know, a majority of fashion’s hot trends come from Europe.  So while such a notion that curvy girls are sex pots might take a while to catch on here in the States, I think it is our duty as curvy girls –and consequently, the men who love them– to stand up strong and proud for this burgeoning concept.  Be proud of your shapely bums and bosoms and be satisfied that you don’t have to conform to a society that would prefer women who look more like heroine addicts than those who won’t break a hip if she fucks your brains out in bed.  We supple gals have every right to be sexy, too, and we are here to stay!

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Just for You

January 31, 2010

I have to extend our most sincere and abject apology for neglecting you all.  My only excuse is that life has simply been happening.  And, although, it is in these times that we should dedicate most of our time here, unfortunately such an undertaking is often too hard to maintain.  I can only hope you all will forgive our absence and accept this peace offering below as a token of our deepest regrets of neglect.

And so just for you, then, a small taste of our latest photo shoot with the most sensational and übertalented Erin of Wicked Kitten Productions.

May I Assist You? Courtesy of Wicked Kitten Productions "All Rights Reserved"

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Get Over It

January 25, 2010

I am a typical woman in many ways, but for the most part I am completely atypical to what most people consider feminine now days.  I can do a lot of things most women would shy away from for fear of breaking a nail and look really fucking good doing it, too.  I can change a tire, tune up my own car, build or put together most anything so long as the directions aren’t in Chinese and I can drive a car in ways that would remind you of that really killer Mini Cooper scene from the Italian Job.  I can trail hike with little trace, read a topographical map, build my own lean-to for shelter, find my way through 500 miles of the Appalachian Trail and make a mean meal at the end of it all over an open fire.  I can bake and frost a cake from scratch, construct baklava that will make you wanna slap yourself, cook most anything you want all while entertaining a two year old who demands most every second of his nanny’s time.  Loads of people can do some of these things, but I like to fancy myself a unique sorta gal because of the combination of things I can do.  But even I have moments of sheer and complete, cage rattling deflation.  So instead of letting my momentary ego rupture keep me down, I’m here to shove myself into the spot-light to show everyone even the best of us have moments of weakness.  So get over it, ya know?

Last week I bought a really cute, super classy-with-a-touch-of-sexy dress.  It was my intention to wear this dress out with Sophie for our date on Saturday.  It is always my intention to be sophisticated, classy and beautiful when I am with Sophie.  I always want to mirror her beauty– reflect her elegance because she deserves to be with and be seen with an equally elegant and attractive mate.  I was so excited when I came home to find my new dress had been delivered that I couldn’t hardly wait to put it on to see how it fit.  However, much to my dismay and horror, the gorgeous dress doesn’t fit.  I look like an over stuffed sausage pouring out of a really tight casing.  The moment I saw myself in the mirror I thought of Olivia Dukakis’s famous line in Steel Magnolias; “[She] looks like two pigs fightin’ under a blanket.”  My heart broke.  It’s still a little sore as I write this.

Now, I have resigned myself to the fact that I am no longer a size 4.  Hell, I don’t ever want to BE a size four ever again.  My life was a living nightmare when I weighed less than 120 pounds and I never want to be a rail ever again.  I like being an hour glass woman.  I like having curves and body lines more similar to a fine Italian race car than a pencil.  I’m completely secure in my 133 pounds, but I have moments –moments like these– when I feel like a sow’s ear.  I can’t return or exchange the dress because it was on sale and I have no time this week to spend in finding a suitable replacement.  Sure I have plenty of amazing clothes I can wear instead, but I wanted something special –new– for this occasion.  Even though Sophie and I already celebrated our anniversary in November, this particular weekend marks the very week I realized that I am in love with her– that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this most wonderful and gorgeous creature.  I wanted something spectacular to wear to mark the occasion… even if she didn’t know why.  I wanted a new dress to feel sexy in for her and for me… and at this very moment I am closer to tears than I am to elation.

I just feel sick.

But I need to get over it.  So, pardon my ramblings.

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A Very (Not-So Belated) Happy Holidays To You

January 5, 2010

Thought the holidays were over?  Figured gone where the days of gifts and good cheer only to be replaced by the cold, blustery winter days of the new year?  Not so, my dears!  Here at the diaries, we follow the tradition of Christmastide, and in doing so we have one more day, Twelfth Day, to give you all a most exciting gift.

A few weeks ago Sophie and I met with HMS Images for our very first photo shoot.  While we had issues with natural light and nerves, HMS was able to give us a shoot that was nothing short of amazing.  Thank you so very much, HMS Images, for your hard work and willingness to help us out.  We wish you all the best for your future endeavors.

Happy Holidays, to all of you, from all of us here at the BiDiEsEm Diaries.

Leg or Breast? Courtesy of HMS Images -- "All Rights Reserved"

Even the Smallest Humiliations... Courtesy of HMS Images -- "All Rights Reserved"

Deck the Hottie! Courtesy of HMS Images -- "All Rights Reserved"

Who Loves You, Bebe? Courtesy of HMS Images -- "All Rights Reserved"

Happy Holidays, Gigi & Sophie Courtesy of HMS Images -- "All Rights Reserved"

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It’s a [Pin-Up] Girl!!!

December 29, 2009

Courtesy of Christian Cook

Over the past few weeks –nay months– kaye and I have been trying to find new ways to expand her femininity and accentuate her already amazing inner self.  Eventually, after careful thought and consideration, we concluded that ‘kaye’ simply belongs to some one else.  Whether kaye belongs to herself or a former PYL, is really neither here nor there.  The main point is that the kaye of today is no longer the kaye she used to be.

Let me explain.

Kaye is a cross-dresser at heart.  She has worn women’s clothing and make-up for most of her life.  From an early age, kaye understood that cross-dressing was as much a part of her as the masculine persona is and that to deny it would create hardship and bitterness in the end.  Just as homosexuals can’t alter what makes them who they are, transgendered people cannot either.  In the beginning, donning a sissy maid style of dress was the easiest way for kaye to make the transition from closet to public cross-dressing, but little did kaye know there was something else laying hidden inside.

Over the last 6 months I have been feeling kaye out for just how deep her cross-dressing goes.  I wanted to know if it was just something she did to quell the beast or if it was a deep and pure desire to feel feminine and adopt a female persona.  As time wore on, I was pleased to realize that not only does kaye’s desire to embrace her femininity run bone deep, but that her need extends to feeling feminine as well as looking feminine.  Needless to say, this discovery sent me to the moon with joy.  Subconsciously I continued to feed kaye’s needs each time she visited me over the next few weeks and I planted seeds in her mind that I knew would take root in her soul and produce the sultry and vivacious blooms of sexiness I knew she craved to sow.

Unfortunately though, just as with all things, kaye’s cross-dressing needs tapered off with the abundance of opportunity I was creating for her.  After several consecutive weeks of dressing up for events, demos and play parties, kaye needed a break.  But eventually, after a few months, she came back around to the need of feeling “pretty” and told me she was ready to embrace her female self again.  It was at this time I decided to challenge her to slide deeper down the rabbit hole.  I am glad to say she hasn’t looked back since and is happily borrowing deeper into her feminine self to see what is yet to be discovered.

“All Rights Reserved”

While it was the sissy maid, kaye, who initially drew me in, it is the sexy little vixen pin-up I know to be locked within her who has earned my heart.  She is still every bit my sweet, delicious slave –serving me as no other could– but she is also a goddess in her own right that should be exalted and worshiped by all who would dare fall at her feet.  As kaye has come to realize this about herself, she has also realized that to totally embrace who she is becoming, she must first shed her former identity.


After coming to this conclusion, and after painstaking consideration and delegation on both our parts, I am proud to share with you all the rebirth of my dear sweet girl.  As a result of our discoveries, my darling sweatheart has come to learn that she requires a name that not only embodies her new-found and continually emerging persona, but one that also embodies elegance and mystery; a je ne sais quoi if you will.  We are both delighted and excited to start on this new journey together with no shackles of the past to hold us back– completely free to carve out a beautiful path together.  I am honoured that she has chosen me to share her beauty with and I will do everything within my power to exalt her inner light to everyone it can reach.

And so it is my extreme and profound pleasure to introduce to you all,
Sophie Croisé.

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New Years Resolution/Goals-from the Dominant’s point of veiw

December 29, 2009

At the behest of kaye, I have compiled a list of New Year’s resolutions for 2010.  Unlike kaye, I am not much for making resolutions.  If I feel change is needed, I implement the change immediately rather than waiting for a new year to spur me forwards.  So rather than creating a list of things I hope to accomplish, I have instead made a tally of all the things I have already started to accomplish this year and plan to complete in the next.  So without further ado, here is my list of “resolutions” for the new year.  (In no particular order)

1.  Practice my Whip throwing and Poi swinging
2. Dedicate time to BDSM education for the general public through the diary and public events
3. Continue to spend more time training kaye for services I require and learning her needs as my property
4. Continue the evolution of kaye’s persona into a whole entity rather than the separate character she is now
5. Set aside more savings for toys, equipment, photography, site upkeep, clothing, etc
6. Pick a new fetish to learn and master
7. Do more demos for BDSM and general events
8. Start the video-diary portion of the website
9. Start the podcast-diary portion of the website
10. Continue to evolve myself and grow

Here’s to a wonderful 2010 with kaye!  May you all have a wonderful new year, too.  Happy New Year, everyone!

~Gigi